So Your Kid Has a Weird Name

You’re not going to spell her name right, so you might as well just call her, “the baby.”

 

Confession: We gave our daughter a weird name.

It’s not, like, celebrity weird. It is not a cardinal direction or a common fruit. But it’s just quirky enough that she will never, ever, find her name on a gas station keychain.

The name could have been relatively normal, but we spelled it wrong different. On purpose.

When I posted it on Facebook, I could almost feel the judgment behind all of the likes. But you know what? We had a reason, one that means a lot to us. And I bet you do, too. Whether you turned Haley into Hailee, pulled Archibald out of the vault, or named your twins Lemonjello and Orangejello.

I may be new to parenting, but I have 31 years of experience with weird names.

Hi, my name is Daci, and I’m positive you just pronounced that wrong in your head (you’re not alone). I’m used to being called Darcy, Dawson, even Dynasty that one time. But you know what? I’m over it. I would even go so far as to say that it made me a more interesting and easy-going individual.

So, if you’ve got a Padraig, a Camryn, or a Lightbulb in your family, and you’re feeling judged, here are a few thoughts from someone who has stopped telling Starbucks baristas her real name – and resigned her daughter to the same fate.

 

  1. A unique name is a built-in conversation-starter. Congratulations! You’ve saved your child from that awkward silence that comes after “nice to meet you.” From now until eternity, she will spend the first few minutes of every conversation explaining her name. Some people choose to look at this as a bad thing. I say, it’s helped me with my people skills.
  2. The grass is always greener. Nearly every Jennifer, Megan, and Sarah I’ve ever met has told me they were jealous of my unique name. Which is funny because on the first day of school every year, as I waited for the teacher to mispronounce my name, I would shrink down into my desk and pray that my name would suddenly change to Jennifer. My point: you’re not necessarily making your kid happier by forgoing the unique name.
  3. A name can tell a story. My daughter is the child of an immigrant, but on first impression nothing about her tells that story, except her name. In the assimilated society we live in, a unique name can be a badge of pride. If that’s something you’re considering, one day that will mean more to your kid than a personalized keychain. (Although, I’m going to imagine finding your name on one of those racks of keychains is the equivalent of being handed a litter of puppies and a winning lottery ticket by Oprah).
  4. A normal name doesn’t exclude you from bullying. Internet moms like to claim that if you give your kid an unusual name, they’ll get teased. Here’s the sad truth – every kid gets teased for something, at some point. This one episode of Full House that I saw approximately 20 years ago always spoke to me: The kids at Stephanie’s school were making fun of her [extremely normal] name, calling her Step On Me. She wanted to change her name to Dawn. Danny Tanner, in his infinite wisdom, calmly tells her that if her name were Dawn, the kids would think of something else to call her, like “Dawn”-ald Duck. Cue the realization that Stephanie is perfectly okay, along with comforting music in the background. The hug. And Comet’s wagging tail. No name is untouchable. I learned a life lesson. And I hope you did, too.

 

Original post published April 2016

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After spending almost twenty years of her life in Louisiana, Daci decided she wanted to experience her eyelashes freezing. Four years later, she and her husband feel right at home in South Minneapolis. In February of 2015, they welcomed a baby girl who makes all of their Twin Cities adventures—from walks around the lake to rooftop drag brunches—that much sweeter. Daci is a communications manager at a non-profit and, in her spare time, runs into yoga classes three minutes late, convinces her friends to attend obscure concerts, recites The Very Hungry Caterpillar in her sleep, and thinks about writing in her blog at dacijaye.com.

44 COMMENTS

  1. My oldest name is Aubrianna. Pronounce Aubri- anna not auna. I read negative comments online statues saying the name is made up. Everyone I bump into loves my daughter name. Everyone still mispronounced my daughter name but thinks it’s beautiful. My son name is Seth not that commen but not different. Being pregnant again. This baby girl name will be Ameyaa. What’s great about my children names are not too weird. Me and my husband love my children name!

  2. My name is Mary which is as boring as can be because my Mother’s name is Pucky. Her real name is Aurelia, but she’s just Pucky. Yes like Hockey Pucky. and it makes her awesome.

    My boys have boring, common, catholic first names and crazy Japanese middle names. (Their dad is Japanese). Best of both worlds.

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