Up, Up, and Away (Again): How to be a Traveling Working Mom

Up, Up, and Away (Again): How to be a Traveling Working Mom | Twin Cities Moms Blog

As I sit in my seat on my 2.5 hour flight back home from a long week of work travel, I think of how happy I am to be going home and how I can’t wait to squeeze my babies. More times than I can count, I strike up a conversation with the person sitting next to me, or it may be someone I meet during my meetings, but when they ask about kids and I say, “Yes, I have three ages five and three-year old twins,” the initial shock and incredulous look sometimes makes me want to laugh. Yes, I know it seems crazy that I am a mom who travels for work, sometimes two to three trips a month. However, when I get called “Super Mom,” or people tell me, “I just don’t know how you do it,” I just chuckle a little inside and give credit where credit is due. If it wasn’t for my courageous husband who takes on all three kids while I am gone and the support we get from his family (who lives with us), none of this would be possible.

You see, this was an in depth conversation with my husband about three years ago before I made the leap to go into the position I am currently in. My oldest was almost three and the twins had just turned one when I received the opportunity. I knew it would mean many nights away from my family, but it was a great step towards the role I wanted at work and it was a step up in pay, which would have helped a lot since I was and still am the primary income. My husband had already started to be the stay at home parent and was focusing on building his business. This decision was not made lightly, and my husband and I talked about the pros and cons. In the end, my husband was supportive in my decision to take on this role and the travel.

If you travel for work, it seems so glamorous at the beginning being able to visit new places and try new things, but after months of being on the road, another hotel, another restaurant eating alone, the glamour fades, especially when you miss your kids and husband a day or two into a five day trip. I have come to think of it as a necessary sacrifice that I am making to ensure I can provide for my family, but time and effort will eventually pay off as I grow into another role within the company. I’m not going to lie, I still love my job and everything I get to do, but I won’t sit here and say I love it every single day. Days get long, sometimes I don’t get to FaceTime the kids before bedtime, I miss my own bed, and I feel guilty for being away and probably missing milestones with the kids as they grow before my very eyes. In the last year, I’ve realized that even though it is necessary, there is a way to handle it in a way that I don’t feel horrible for the decision I made and to not get frustrated or burnt out from work travel.

There are some things I have started to try and do with every trip to make it a little easier to manage and to not be stuck feeling sorry for myself:

1. Think of it as a break.
We know being a parent is tiresome and I’ve started to take a look at my trips as a “break” from the job of parent at home. It’s a little break from the busy lifestyle of having to work full-time at the office and then be on again at home as a mom.

2. Be a tourist.
I understand that this can’t be done all the time, but I really try to at least eat at a new restaurant, explore a new area, or do something a real tourist would do in the city. Sometimes I just want to go back to my hotel after a long day of meetings, order room service and go to bed. But by trying a new restaurant or if my day ends early, doing something touristy, this is a good way to decompress from the day and do something fun while on business.

3. Make sure you talk to your family every single day even if it is for a minute.
Technology makes it so easy for us to quick jump on a video conference to be able to talk to our loved ones. I try hard every day, even if I am two to three hours behind home to put a quick call in to my husband and kids to say hi, ask about their day, and give them air kisses.

4. Don’t feel guilty.
I know it’s tough, but you should not feel guilty about this choice. Also, don’t let others put you down or provide a negative opinion that affects how you think about yourself. It may not be an ideal situation in your mind, but if you love what you do, never feel guilty about that and the fact you are providing for your family.

5. It’s not forever.
The days get long, the years pass by, but I know this won’t be my life forever. I can and will make the choice eventually to find a role in a business I love that doesn’t require the amount of travel that I do today. This thinking gets me past every trip knowing there will be one that will be my last.

6. Take advantage of the miles/points you earn.
Living in Minnesota, there are certain airlines that dominate price and frequency-wise to my destinations. With that, I save up what I can and my goal is to take a family vacation to enjoy the fruits of my labor at least once a year.

7. Let your significant other rest and have a day/night to themselves.
Even though you may be tired yourself from traveling, always make sure that if your partner needs a break or needs to go out away from the home when you are back, let them do it. It’s a great way to tell them you appreciate them and that it’s okay to go out and take a break and let me take on everything you’ve been doing the past few days. If you are a couple that both travel for work, make sure and find time just to yourselves to catch up and work on the both of you.

8. Don’t hesitate to ask for help/support when and where you need it.
Without my in-laws and my family here in Minnesota to check in or help out when I am gone, I think my husband and I would be more stressed out than we would be today. If you have family, friends, or neighbors you can rely on, it’s okay to ask for help to make sure things don’t blow up while you are away.

So let me wrap this up since the pilot just came on to tell us we are starting to descend into Minneapolis. When I hear this message, I get really excited because even though it is still hard to leave sometimes on a weekly basis, I look forward to coming home to see the kiddos’ faces and get a hug and kiss from them (even though they are getting to the age they don’t want them from mommy). They make it all worth it.

Aimee is considered first generation, born and raised right in Minnesota made possible by her parents who are Vietnamese refugees. She is married to her husband Paul and they have four handsome boys - Davis (2010), twin boys, Miles and Quincy (2012), and Jones (2019). Aimee works as a Relationship Manager for her day job, has a love for delicious food, and is always ready for the next adventure with her little family. Follow Aimee and her family through Instagram Pinterest Facebook


  1. Aimee, this is a great perspective on how you make traveling and working outside the home work in your family. As parents, we all provide for our families in different ways and I really appreciate hearing how you are making things work and encouraging other moms in similar travel-related jobs with tips on how you do it. Thanks for sharing this post and lifting up other moms who are experiencing the same challenges and feelings.

      • Aimee,

        I am a mother of 3 children and Vietnamese like you. I have a job offer which will enhance my finances and career, yet, I will be require to travel through out the year. I couldn’t bear the thoughts that I will be able to be away from my children for more than several days per week. I am afraid that I will miss out their activities, hugs, kisses, and conversations. You write so well and has great perspective about travel and working mom. I really enjoy your posts and thank you for sharing your experiences.


        • Donna, I appreciate your comments. It is not an easy decision to make and tough at times. Make the decision that is right for you and your family. I am also lucky to have an employer that stresses the importance of work life balance. I miss some kid events but I make up for it for the times I don’t travel. I am fortunate enough this summer to not have to travel a lot and I am hoping I am making the most of my time now at home

  2. Aimee, thanks so much for sharing your experience. I am getting ready to start a travel position that would be great financially for my family. I have a 2 year old and 10 year old. I will be taking 13 week assignment but able to travel home 2 weekend a month. I feel guilty and sometimes sick to my stomach and I really hope I am making the right decision.

    • Karen,thank you for your words. I want to wish you good luck on the new role, I hope you can take some of the things I have adopted to try and still do today on my work trips to make the best of your decision.It’s normal to feel guilty but if you love your work too, that’s okay too!

    • I am Considering taking a 3month job. I am a single mom And have recently moved to live near my sons Dad and co parent. I haven’t found work yet since december, and I have an opportunity that I would make a lot in 3 1/2months. My sons Dad said he would take him to visit me and I am hoping my parents will bring him to visit me on the weekends as well. It’s not just a drive it’s a long flight. This job wouldn’t necessarily enhance my career but it would allow me to make a lot of $ in a short period of time. So I can afford the upcoming months. My son will be 28m old when I would go, if I accept it. Before that I had only been away a few hours at a time working short shifts and 1 long day. Now he has been staying with his Dad for two nights a week.

  3. Hi, my name is Jen and I am about to embark on a similar journey. My husband and I suffered huge financial losses from a previous business. I started my own business providing educational consulting services with educational contracting through my own LLC. Business has flourished and I just bought my first home for the most amazing people, my 5& 6 year old girls and my amazing, loving and supportive husband. I will be home 4 days a week for 38 weeks with business commuter flights. I am missing my children with the 12 hour days I currently work 6 days per week. I am looking forward to spending time with my family between trips. I am working on obtaining licensure in a different area to expand my business into other more local work. How can I get through this year without the guilt of the what if’s? And how will I get through 4 days without kissing my beautiful half Asian half me girls!!


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