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Honesty Should Be The Policy

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We all know the saying, “honesty is the best policy,” but when it comes to talking about our lives as mothers, are we really adhering to this rule? Are you authentic and honest with the women in your life? And are the women you interact with keeping it real? Hear me now, ladies. There is no reason to sugar-coat your life when you have true friendships and relationships. In my opinion, there is nothing more exhausting than trying to pretend that you have your crap all together, when in all actuality, you could use a little (or a bunch) of help.

I had dinner with a true, authentic friend recently and spilled my guts about the crazy in my world right now. But as I shared with her, and now with you all, I have never been happier and content. Crappy day, frazzled moments, stressful week, or a terrible month does not equal a bad life. So, why then are we so concerned about sharing these deep moments where we feel despair or embarrassment? These moments do not define us as people, so please don’t lose heart mama if your world is not feeling all buttoned up neatly with a pretty bow. No matter how much we might think the friend, neighbor, the co-worker, etc. has it “together,” I have no doubt that they have those moments that they would rather not let the world see or know.

If anything, I’ve maybe become too free with dishing the details on my life. But rose-colored glasses are just not a part of my wardrobe anymore. If you are hiding truth and only exchanging niceties with your friends, I encourage you to wade into unfamiliar waters and share some real stories. They need not be explosive details about your life, but something that gives you a slight twinge of discomfort in your tummy. Maybe you have never been able to have a friend over for coffee without deep cleaning your house first. Perhaps your precious, adorable kiddos are driving you nuts with a certain stage of life and you are beating yourself up for not knowing how to help them through it. Whatever “it” is that is nagging you, do not keep it to yourself for the sake of pride. Honesty really is the best policy!

So in the spirit of sipping some truth serum, here are some pretty benign details of my flawed but lovely life as of late. I encourage you to share some of yours, too.

A few weeks ago, I was running so late to get the kids off to school that I missed brushing my teeth and went to work surrounded by professional people all day.

Our house was out of toilet paper for a good 24 hours recently. It just happened to also coincide the same day that my mother-in-law was at our house watching our boys.

I recently cleaned out a cluttered coat closet and found my old diaper bag still packed with diapers and sippy cups. It’s been over 3 years since I’ve carried a diaper bag.

Lately, at least one of my boys lands in our bed everynight.

Ok, so that’s enough for now, or my mom is going to get concerned. Egos can be fragile things, but being authentic is so much better for the soul and your friendships.

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2 comments

Suzanne December 12, 2014 at 7:43 AM

Keep being real and transparent! It’s best to,find true friends you can be vulnerable with! The teeth not getting brushed has happened to me too!!

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Melissa Oprish December 12, 2014 at 9:07 PM

Alissa-your realness is one of the five million things I adore about you..keep rocking it!!

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