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The “Are You Having More Babies?” Question

I guess since our second baby is now approaching two-years-old, this is the big question everyone keeps asking: “When’s the third coming along?” Or better yet: “Are you pregnant?”

So today we’re doing a Q & A on all the funny things I, or us moms, get asked about baby number three.

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The answer…It’s still up for debate. 

I swear we’ve heard it all. The good, the bad, the WTF, and the funny! 

Are you going for a third?

This question annoys most people, but honestly, it doesn’t bother me. 

If you ask me, I’d say bring on all the babies!!! Give me five.
If you ask my husband, Jamie, he’d say that we can hardly survive with two.

I totally see where Jamie is coming from; this gig is hard work! Being a mom or dad to one or ten is no flipping joke.

But, for me, I feel like you’ll have that mamma intuition when you’re done and you’ll know when it’s your last baby.


I don’t know if that’s true, because I haven’t felt that yet. I’m not ready to be done. Even if I despise getting my kids out the door every morning and fighting with them to get their darn shoes on. I mean… look at these sweet faces…

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Are you pregnant?!

I don’t mind getting asked if I’m having more babies, but to be asked if I’m pregnant? I mean…who even asks this question?! NO, I AM NOT PREGNANT!! I just haven’t lost my baby weight yet, dude! 

Twice, I’ve been asked this and I went home both times and burned both outfits.

Are you going to try for a baby girl?

I get this question. And I’m 100% certain I’ve asked this same one. But no, I don’t need a girl to have my life fulfilled. Would I like one? Yes. But now with a 4-year-old boy I often think… would a girl at this age have more drama. If so, Lord help me! 

I have four beautiful nieces and two goddaughters. They feel extra special to me in a funny way. I know they’d feel just as special if I had a girl too. For now, I get to bond with them differently because I do not have girls. I appreciate those moments.

Although I would love to have a girl, that isn’t why I’d try for baby number three. I would love to be a boy mom, even if we had five boys. 

My husband says if we were guaranteed a girl, he’d give me one last shot! And thinking of him as a daddy to a girl, as I get to watch him with our nieces…oh.em.gee. That would be the biggest turn-on ever!! Haha! I can’t even imagine.

I know it sounds cliché, but honestly, all we’ve ever prayed for is to just simply have a baby. We’ve seen way too many of our friends, family, readers, and strangers lose or not be able to carry and I can’t fathom that pain. So a boy, a girl, or whatever else God gives me is totally cool.

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Well, if you go for three you know what that means…$$$

New cars to fit five, more money, more college educations to pay for, more hands, bodies, that you don’t have…we’ve heard it all!

We get it. I don’t think we as humans will ever “think” we have enough money or “stuff” for anything we want in life. It’s just the way our minds work. Because once we’ve got it, we want more.

Luckily for us, we have an awesome financial planner to help us budget right. And he’s making sure our kids are well taken care of for the rest of their lives.

But then your family won’t be even; someone’s always left out.

If it were up to me, we’d go for four kids to make our family even. Hehe.

We both come from families of five and even though we know someone was always left out…

I’ll never forget my family’s Disney trip, where I lost my mind on my brothers in the parking lot because the entire day I had to ride by myself. I get it. Ha! But we all also laugh about that moment to this day. My brothers still quote me on the things I screamed. It makes me laugh every time. I also think that’s why I’m more independent now, so thank you, Mom and Dad!

Jamie and I are also both middle children, but our experiences were different. One thing we both agree on is that as middle children, we were always pretty chill. So if we have a third baby, we already know who will be our favorite. Haha! Just kidding… but maybe. 

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At the end of most days, Jamie will look me in the eye and say: “And you want a third?!!!” Touché, Hunny, touché.

But then once you give them their 10 glasses of water, read them 100 books, and they simply say with their cute little hands around your neck… “Momma, I love you….”

Give me ten more babies!! Those simple words make it all worth it and you forget the rest. 

How about you guys? What are some of the funniest or most crazy baby questions you have been asked about having more?! 

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