I’ve never liked asking for help.
I mean does anyone really?
When my kid’s were really tiny, (all three under five-tiny), life was crazy and chaotic. I honestly could have used a few extra set of hands once in a while. Especially if one of them (or all three) were sick. Or even worse if I was sick.
I can recall so many times where I needed help. Desperately needed it. But I couldn’t bring myself to call on family or friends to help. And if help was offered, it was really, really difficult to accept it.
I am Supermama! I could do it all, right?
Wrong. I was so stubborn.
In the earlier years, my misconception as a mom was if I didn’t do it all by myself, somehow that meant I wasn’t a good mama. So when motherhood got hard, I often swam through the hardness alone.
I know better now.
A good mama is one who asks for help. Who leans on her village and community when she is weak. Who realizes that she can’t do it all by herself. Who accepts helping hands when offered.
I still don’t like asking for help. But I have learned that it is almost vital sometimes. I have learned to reach out and let others in. I’ve also learned that I am surrounded by so many people who love to help. Who want to help.
I have found by doing so that I become stronger and feel surrounded by people who love to pour into my family. It is a beautiful thing to feel supported and cared for.
We recently brought our adopted daughter home. This entire year has been about being vulnerable with those around us and asking for help again and again, and again.
It’s been humbling. So very humbling for this mama who likes to do it all herself. But we have been told by those who have offered to help with logistics and childcare etc. that it has been their joy to be a part of our lives.
It’s brought us joy as well and a certain calm to our home that has changed! We are so thankful for them. We love our family and our community.
Sweet Mama, welcoming others into our lives, even the hardest parts of our lives, can be such a gift to you and your little ones.
What is stopping you for asking for help when you need it the most?
Probably the most important lesson I have learned about being a parent! I just wrote about this subject this week on my blog, Beer and Junk: http://beerandjunk.com/2016/05/23/letter-woman-raising-children/.
Thanks for sharing this Cari!